Resolutions? I Don’t Think So!

Every year, we have resolutions and a lot of us break them. I’ve decided not to have any resolutions this year because they’re really bad for my mental health and they make me want to better myself, rather than accepting myself the way I am. I think it’s okay for people to have resolutions, as long as they don’t push themselves beyond their limit. When you’re like me, resolutions can mean serious emotional torment. I usually fail them anyway.

There’s so much that I could do, but I don’t want to get unhealthy habits by obsessing over things I could improve about myself.

I’ve got a lot of flaws so there are a lot of things I could say about what I want to improve. But I don’t want to. I’ve stopped wanting to better myself. I’ve learned that if others don’t love you for how you are now, then they aren’t worth it. And everything has always been about other people for me. What will they think? That’s such an unhealthy thought process and, due to anxiety, I don’t think I can ever fully eliminate that thought from my mind — but I can start caring about my life again.

Obviously, if I happen to change when doing other things, then that will happen, but I won’t focus my entire being on trying to change myself. I’ve always wanted to change myself and I’m just done with that now.

So here’s to 2019 and another year of being me.

Lia 🙂

9 thoughts on “Resolutions? I Don’t Think So!

  1. I used to make resolutions like get rid of my acne, lose weight, etc, which can actually be so damaging to your mental health. I tend to make “fun” ones now that aren’t and hopefully not damaging to my mental health like looking after a plant and learning a new skill (which is what I’m doing this year). 😄

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  2. You’re completely right about resolutions causing you to focus on what you don’t have rather than accepting what you do have. It makes us feel like we’re lacking something when we’re not. Instead, I like to think of my resolutions as positive things that I have done this year that I can continue to do in the New Year, such as improving my confidence, pushing myself out of my comfort zone, taking time out to keep myself happy, etc. That way, I know I’ve already been successful in those areas but it’ll drive me to continue to work in that direction 😊

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    • That’s good! Focus on things that you’ve already been successful in so you won’t worry about achieving certain goals. Honestly I’m just looking at events I know are happening this year rather than things I could make happen. If there’s a 100% chance of it happening, I can look forward to it and know that I’m doing something that will make me smile.

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      • Yeah that’s very true! I think a good mix between looking forward to events and a natural drive for success (that doesn’t overpower your mind) is really important! Because the drive keeps you feeling like you have a worthwhile purpose and the events keep you happy enough in the present

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