Am I Fat?

That was a rhetorical question by the way, so don’t answer it. 😉

I’ve suffered from depression for a long time, probably since I was about eight, but it was never diagnosed until I was about twelve, when my parents found out I’d been causing harm to myself. Depression is something that doesn’t just get better with an “it’ll be fine”. When you’re told how worthless you are for a long time — at school, you believe it, and it will never go away. I was once a really confident and bubbly kid, turned into something unsure and assumptive because of what people have said, because of what I have said to myself.

Despite having some really caring friends now, I still know some people that make me feel rubbish, but I can’t do anything about it. They make me feel like everything I say or do is wrong, that it’s my fault. Maybe it is my fault, but I’ve been called wrong so many times that I don’t know the difference between right and wrong anymore. It’s like it’s been put in a blender and mixed together. I can’t understand it. Often, people say that what I consider wrong is right, and that what I consider right is wrong. Then other times, they don’t. It’s confusing.

So, this leads me to the title of my post, my depression often leaves me turning to simple comforts. Sometimes, that simple comfort is food. I might binge eat sometimes. Other times, however, I don’t eat at all because I realise how disgusting I was being. I don’t seem to have an in-between. I feel really fat, really really fat, despite the fact that I’ve been told I’m not. I just can’t stop thinking about my weight — I even got a treadmill for my birthday to try and lose weight. But I feel sad and I feel fat and I feel horrible too. I don’t feel like I have any positive characteristics. I’ve certainly been told by people that I don’t and the only time I’ve been talked about positively is to do with my skills, which is just to do with what I can do, not what I am as a person. So I don’t really know where I stand.

Am I fat? Am I horrible? Am I really worthless? Do I listen to the voices inside me telling me that I am?

I guess I’ll never know, really, as much as people tell me that I’m great blahblahblah or that I’m awful blahblahblah — both types of people could be lying, but it’s hard for me to identify the truth and the lie. Because what people believe is their truth and if that person believes I’m a bad person, then I am a bad person.

I just want some answers, proper answers, ones that shoot through my body like an electric shock. I don’t want to be confused anymore.

Thank you for reading this post,

Lia 🙂

12 thoughts on “Am I Fat?

  1. You are not worthless, you are not horrible, and everybody has these voices you speak of in their head. Listen to those voices, both positive and negative, and talk to them. You gotta learn to love yourself before you can love someone else.

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  2. It doesn’t matter whether people think what you say or do is wrong or right, you don’t have to explain yourself to them. It’s your life and you get to make the decisions. The only things which matters are whether YOU think what you’re doing is wrong or right, the rest just doesn’t matter- honestly. You’re not a horrible person for putting yourself first. You’re not selfish. You are simply trying to reach your full potential and that is not a horrible person in my books. That is wonderful and beautiful person ❤


  3. Aww, I always used to ask myself those questions, and tbh nothing anybody could say would make me feel like a somebody. Even now I slip back into my old starving habits. It takes time and you’re a beautiful person and yeah xx

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  4. “Nobody defines me other than me” One of the best quotes I have ever heard. If you know that you treat people well and have good core values then you should not let allow others to define you. We all have enemies. The important thing is to take no notice of them and concentrate on those that value us and really know us.


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